Have you ever been in an argument and felt like it was hard to say “I’m sorry?” I meet with couples all the time who have the same feeling and struggle to tell each other that they made a mistake or that they are sorry. Sometimes it is because we are worried that if we say, “I’m sorry for what I just said,” it will … [Read more...]
How Couples Find Joy and Happiness
Many people can relate to being in a relationship where it feels like nothing that you do can bring back joy to the relationship. Almost everyone has experienced the joy that comes early on in relationships. The look in your partner’s eyes as they are excited to see you and the butterflies in your stomach. The easy … [Read more...]
Applying What You Learned From Your Parents’ Marriage(s)
Our first idea of how marriage works is by watching how our parents interact with each other. Good or bad, we can learn a lot about marriage and what does and does not work from these first teachers. Many couple seeking marriage counseling do so because they have a distinct idea of how a marriage should function - and … [Read more...]
The Problem with Disguises
We are so accustomed to disguise ourselves to others that in the end we become disguised to ourselves. - Francois de La Rochefoucauld I stumbled across this quote last week and was struck by the importance of this sentence. I believe that it relates to many of the reasons that lead people into therapy. I began … [Read more...]
What is Couple’s Therapy?
Couples therapy and marriage counseling is focused on understanding and adjusting the problematic patterns and behaviors in the relationship that are interfering with connection and communication. This is just a technical way of talking about understanding how people move from feeling very close and happy to distant … [Read more...]